Non-practice

I told you about a movie: The Grey (2012) – One of the best movies I’ve ever seen – Get a result now! Until not too much time ago, I’d consider this logic fine: It’s OK to do your best to earn money, it’s a good test to survive, for both you (you survive with money) and others (others live with your help). Surviving is good, right? Yes it is. But in “The Grey” and this evening I acknowledged that money is not everything. Adrian CHIRA (LinkedIn, web site) said something about this care only for money, and, to some point, surviving: “You’re hungry” (not referring to me, as a general rule). And it’s quite true. A lot of the career decisions are taken on the basis of whether you’re hungry or not. And it’s quite sad. I didn’t take any decisions on this, I’m not hungry, and I do a lot of things for things out of “hungriness”, but, still, very nice idea. Later Edit: So, what’s the alternative? Actually, they’re two: Ignore being hungry, act as if you’re not. Follow the dream. Do what you want. Act your wishes.  Stop being hungry – lower your needs, so that you’re not hungry anymore.

At a course with Cătălin ZAHARIA – inspirational model in structured communication, for me; and top speaker – Get a result now! we had to pick a role – client (stating a problem), coach (helping the client solve its problems), observer (noticing things, giving feed-back at the end). For most of the time, I used to think that: The role of a client rules. The role of a coach, if he does his job well, is good. The role of an observer is not that great. I’m starting to see some advantages in the ability to not be 100% focused on the problem, from the position of the observer. The observer role is not that bad. Sometimes, just noticing thing is good enough.

Two ideas after a workshop: I like childhood a lot. I may want to come back with memories to it more often. Good times. The best leadership model is the one in which the leader makes himself cherished by his followers. So, if you want to be a leader, rather than striving to “sell” a model, you may wish to make yourself genuinely cherished by your followers.

Bruno Medicina said once an argument similar to the following: EN: Mozart, Beethoven, all the great geniuses, broke the rules and won. We like them because they had results when they broke the rules. Yet the top students today are forced, in the institutional education system, to obey the rules. They perform well in spite of the fact that they can’t/shouldn’t break the rules. RO: Mozart, Beethoven, toate geniile mari, au încălcat regulile și au reușit. Îi apreciem datorită faptului că avut rezultate încălcând regulile. Cu toate astea, studenții de azi sunt forțați, în sistemul educațional instituțional, să urmeze regulile. Ei au rezultate bune, și performează, în ciuda faptului că nu pot / nu ar trebui să încalce regulile. This thought also applies to other fields (see religion, where many things happen for not obeying, and all religion is based on obeying). See other forms of art where it is difficult to produce something from scratch without heavy disagreements.

Hello, A few ideas after a workshop: At some time in the Bible, some Apostles are told to bring the fish to the surface. At other times, they are told they will be made fishermen of real people (thus, the fishes are associated with people). What does it mean to bring the fish to the surface? It may imply that the real value of a person, its soul & spirituality resides hidden in waters, and it can only be made visible by trying hard. I noticed I mirror other person’s body positions. So, if X leans forward, I lean forward. If X leans back, I lean back. On the other hand, I do not mirror ideas, quite the contrary, I have a tendency to oppose them. Sometimes, when I disagree with someone, I say something like “Yes, …” and continue with saying the opposite of what X says. So the “Yes” part is a bit misleading. But easier to take. Good book (perhaps): Amazon.com: Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia (9780143038412): Elizabeth Gilbert: Books