Whenever a party speaks of another party, most often they refer to exterme behaviors.
“Some religious persons do this very offending thing”.
“Some atheists do this very offending thing”.
“A few writers do this, which means that most writers do that”.
It’s very hard to get yourself out of the thinking that extreme behavior does not equal average.
We have it in our system – we look for the error, thinking that the average must follow the same rule. News flash – it doesn’t.
At times, I meet this scenario. I go to a client of mine, and I tell him that he/she does something wrong. He looks, surprised, back at me, and he/she tells me that within the company Google’s rules are strictly followed, and this is common practice – there’s nothing wrong with this practice. I go on to explain that Google changes, it’s not the same, as time passes. Unfortunately, if you go to Google.com to search for things, you get various articles, with various dates. And what was valid in 2008 is not valid in 2014. And what was valid in 2012 in Romania is not valid in 2014 in Romania. Even some of my own articles are so out-dated that, even though they have a warning right at the top, they might still lead people into potentially dangerous measures. “You are doing something which is wrong!” “No, it isn’t, I abide by Google’s best practices!” “Which version of Google are you referring to?”
I have seen other examples, in which people have tried doing “SEO” based on old practices. Yes, at various times it was OK to do keyword stuffing, have a network of other sites linking to you, get links from web directories, and so on. But these things don’t apply to today’s Google.
It appears to be futile – writing a long post on a subject. After all, most blog posts, even those with a clear demonstration behind them, can be turned into something smaller.
Well, it helps. It helps you become better in the process of writing. Going through the path of writing a message makes you a better person. You work for it.
Some of my blog posts tend to look rather stupid. Simple ideas, repeated, at times, obsessively. Well, I like them, nevertheless, and I learn from writing them, despite of this.
Case study – sometimes, when I go to an event, I photograph weird things – the entrance, some objects in the room, a logo. Most people would focus a lot on the speaker, less on the organizers, and very few times on the participants.
My focus tends to differ. I don’t go around in the room photographing objects. But I do photograph lots of things, and this helps me make a photo story which tends to be not necessarily easier to follow, but easier to remember.
The photo at the entrance helps you connect with the room. The various photos in the room help you connect with the audience. And so on.
Another case study – yesterday I resized a partition. I thought the process would last for a few seconds, but it lasted for about 15 hours. I couldn’t cancel the operation, once started, so I had to wait to finish. The whole day I checked on the status, to see how much it would last. It brought some frustration. The next time I’ll need to resize a partition, surely, I’ll know more about the process than I know right now.
Writing about things makes you remember those things better. When you are the teacher, you learn some things yourself.
Being mindful about the nature of aggressive, intimidating, and controlling people can help us de-personalize the situation, and turn from being reactive to proactive.
One effective way to de-personalize is to put yourself in the other person’s shoes, even for just a moment. For example, consider the offender you’re dealing with, and complete the sentence: “It must not be easy…”
“My friend is so aggressive. It must not be easy to come from an environment where everyone was forced to compete…”
“My manager is really overbearing. It must not be easy to have such high expectations placed on her performance by senior executives…”
“My partner is so controlling. It must not be easy to have grown up in a family where he was told how to think and act in every way…” (How to Successfully Handle Aggressive and Controlling People | Psychology Today)
In the current blog post, I’ll review Rank Tracker software from SEO PowerSuite, a company which provides all-in-one SEO software & SEO tools. I will also look at the other 3 components of SEO Power Suite.
SEO PowerSuite covers every aspect of an SEO campaign. It has software from rankings to on-page to backlinks.
First, let’s talk about Rank Tracker.
How does it work? Rank Tracker checks Google and Yahoo! rankings for the keywords you set it to.
You need to first setup a campaign, and some software options, and from time to time to run the software. It’s always running on your machine, not on servers, so it’s not cloud-based, but in your machine. Each time you need to update the rankings, you need to run the software. It goes pretty smoothly after the first runs, you will get used to this.
- You can compare your web sites to your competitors.
- You can make it emulate human searches, so you won’t get banned by search engines.
- You can setup external proxies, to check up without risking blocking by search engines.
- You can create personalized and professional reports for your customers.
- You can connect Google Analytics, Google AdWords and Google Search Console, to pull up more data from these services and integrate it in a single place.
- They do very often software updates, so you always have the most recent engine of the software.
- You can check more than a single domain.
- Compatible with all the major search engines.
- Keep track of historical evolution.
- Good price for value.
- I got good results with my clients when using it for a few years.
- For what it does – checking rankings on your computer, not in the cloud, and keeping rankings, I think it’s the best in industry.
- It has a good user experience.
- You can set it to run based on a schedule.
- It can save data in the clouds, on your own Dropbox account or on SEO Power Suite servers.
Let’s take it step by step, with more details.
Let’s say you download a movie from the Internet, and in that folder, you have two files: filename.avi and filename.srt. Let’s say for download you’ve used a program which doesn’t allow you to rename files. If you download another subtitle from the Internet, whenever you play the movie, the filename.srt has priority.
How to automatically open the subtitle, without deleting the original subtitle, and without copying the movie in a new location?
Simple – rename you new .srt file into filename.sub. BSPlayer will give that new subtitle a higher priority, even if the format of the file is .srt.
When I was little, I was raised by an aunt very free, no restrictions, from time to time left alone, until I was 3. After that, I was raised from 3 to 18 years in Năvodari.
During this passage from Pîrjol to Năvodari, I kept in me a wish for freedom (and loneliness), which is a basic emotion in me.
When I was at Năvodari, I had a feeling that in order to be loved, you need to behave as a good kid. I was raised differently at Pîrjol, where no matter what I did, I was still loved.
Where this thing lead to? I preferred to be without love, rather than without freedom. So I remained non-loved (this was my feeling, with the persons in Pîrjol far away from me, and the persons in Năvodari not close), but free, rather than loved and with rules.
My system of values is based on two things:
1. I am free, I can do whatever I wish, I break things, I’m a hero, I sacrifice myself, I give away everything, I have no rules.
2. I don’t love myself and I cannot love others, because I don’t have a system to position myself to the family.
The view from space of my childhood is the following: I was raised by an aunt + uncle in Pîrjol, Bacău, laughter, happy, loved, spoiled, well treated, until I was 3. At 3 years coming to Năvodari, Constanța, mother, father, loved, raised well, appreciated.
The reality in my heart is not the child within me. The child with me woke up when he was 3 years old, taken from Paradise and set on a road to follow rules to be loved / comparisons with the calm brother. I wanted to be be loved and I had to follow rules.
There is alomst no relation between the external look and what I discover within myself.
1. There is a context in which I am free, happy, I do what I wish. I am somewhere in here. God is in here, too.
2. There is another context in which I tried to build love, and, in this situation, there is the love of my aunt, unconditioned and continues. Following that, the conditional love of my mother. From this puzzle, there are some missing pieces.
I remember I was very afraid when I was little at night, I almost always had nightmares. In recent years, less so frightening, but, still, I had dreams with worries. In most of my dreams I worry. Almost everything I dream, I dream with worry. I have little to no calm dreams.
Why? Because I don’t feel loved, and my life is not a quiet and serene peace in which emotions occur, but there is a continuous noise (the non-love, painful as it is, towards me and others). This noise covers everything.
Why do I need to make jokes, a lot? I start from the premise that, in the relationship with someone else, that person doesn’t love me / appreciate me. But, when a person laughs, that person becomes vulnerable, it is a little sacrifice which makes you look silly in front of others. It’s an open heart. Someone told me that this doesn’t mean that, automatically, I build a relationship with that person. Perhaps, but to me it’s “good enough”.
The constant noise stops when I make someone laugh, and that person becomes vulnerable. Even if it’s not towards me, and I don’t have a relationship, it’s my own method of validation – laughter.
If I will manage to stop the powerful noise, I can hear the jazz. I can sleep without worries. I can listen to jazz. I can watch Tarkovsky.
My process of having models in life and people to lookup to is because there is no quiet life, in which I can build regular emotions, but only up and downs, and I’m either high (compared to most people) or low (compared to models). I’m never at the same level.