Innocence

Peter Schüler - child in time

I’ll say it again and again – I like this quote

“[…] ceea ce contează în viață nu-i niciodată inteligența, ci bunătatea […]. E lucrul cel mai bun pe care îl poate avea cineva în viață.” (Mircea Cărtărescu – via video-ul de aici)

And another one:

This philosophical razor advocates that when presented with competing hypotheses about the same prediction, one should select the solution with the fewest assumptions,[3] and that this is not meant to be a way of choosing between hypotheses that make different predictions. (Occam’s razor – Wikipedia)

Innocence is so cool! Sure, it lacks intelligence, sure, it’s not smart, but a happy heart can be forgiven for the lack of intelligence.

As long as you have a good heart, even though “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”, I think that’s the way to go.

Do good, as good as you can do it, and you’ll be forgiven for the lack of intelligence in making things right.

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Sfântul Serafim de Sarov – “Atenție la duhul întristării, căci aceasta dă naștere la toate relele”

corinne glaziou - Happy August

Sfântul Serafim de Sarov: “În mod aparte, pentru a păstra pacea sufletească trebuie evitată acedia și să te străduiești a avea un duh vesel și nu trist. Trebuie să încerci să ieși din această stare cât mai iute cu putință. Atenție la duhul întristării, căci aceasta dă naștere la toate relele.”

I see this happening quite often. Sometimes, I can be irritated by something, and I make poor decisions. It helps to be happy.

You can’t be 100% happy, you can’t laugh or smile all the time.

But the placebos work – if you imagine yourself in a happy state, you’ll tend to actually enter that state.

Trying to be happy will, at the end of the day, make you happy.

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How I receive feedback

A Gate - Grow up

Mistake 1: Thinking people give feedback the way they want to receive it

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One of the hardest things I’ve had to learn is that humans aren’t pure functions: an input that works one day and gets one result, then again another day and get an entirely different result.

The same is true of how people give and receive feedback: someone may give you feedback in a particular way, but they prefer to receive much differently when it comes to themselves.

(Mistakes I’ve Made as an Engineering Manager | CSS-Tricks)

This happens to me quite a lot. I sometimes give a lot of feedback, some of it is perceived as aggressive, but when others give feedback to me, when others tell me some things, I tend to overreact.

I’ve gotten better with both parts, I think, as time passed by – I was able to receive feedback without getting upset, and I was able to give feedback which is as little emotional as possible.

Still, at the end of the day, there’s a gap between how I give and how I receive feedback.

Two battles:

  • When I give feedback: “Why don’t you like this? It helps you grow!”.
  • When I receive it: “I know it helps me grow, but it’s not easy to take in”.

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Raport GPeC E-Commerce România 2020: Cumpărături online de 5,6 miliarde de euro, în creștere cu 30% față de 2019

Potrivit estimărilor ARMO (Asociația Română a Magazinelor Online), sectorul de e-commerce a atins pragul de 5,6 miliarde de euro la finalul anului 2020, cu 30% mai mult decât în 2019 când valoarea comerțului online a fost estimată la aprox. 4,3 miliarde de euro. Creșterea a fost cu aprox. 500 de milioane de euro peste previziunile inițiale, pe fondul pandemiei Covid-19 care a accelerat ritmul cumpărăturilor online, precum și procentul plăților online prin card.

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“I’ve got the power!”

Finn Frode - Friends forever (2015)

“I’ve got the power!”, you might think.

But what is personal power?

  • On one hand, it might look that power comes from aggressiveness. Being tough, fighting, never giving up, persisting.
  • On another hand, what I think real power is – is humility. Sure, persisting in something is good, but you need humility for that, to admit that you might be wrong. You can help others, you can be available, you can be open and vulnerable.

A lot of times, I see power mistaken as force. “Push things!”, they say. But being able to control your inner demons, succeeding despite …, insisting, having the humbleness to start from scratch – these, all help a lot in real power.

You can manipulate people, force them, make them fear you. Or you can bend the tree by having him wanting to bend, by making the tree feel more like a flower than a solid object. You can make people feel good and want to be on your side.

To me, the real power is controlling yourself.

There’s a poor joke / acronym: “BITCH = Babe In Total Control of Herself“. But it’s actually half-true: if you want to be powerful, you need to be able to control your urges and emotions.

Don’t be aggressive, but control your emotions. That’s not how people commonly see the acronym.

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“Stupid is as stupid does” – Forrest Gump

Patrick McDonald - George Best, the tormented genius

“Stupid is as stupid does” – Forrest Gump (1994 movie)

About the above quote: I don’t think that Forrest Gump is either 100% smart or 100% stupid.

The quote makes you think – is someone who acts stupid really stupid?

There are two ways to look at this aspect:

  • You can have intellectual issues, thus be considered stupid;
  • Do wrong things, thus be considered stupid.

I think that putting a label on Forrest doesn’t help anyone. He tries his best to make the world better and works a lot for this aim.

From time to time he does something rather silly, but in the big picture of life, this doesn’t matter.

Then there’s the act of looking at stupidity – while you are confronted with two options – A and B – it is rather difficult to choose between the two. After some things occur, it’s easy to look back at the life and claim “Oh, I would have done better in the same context”. I’m not so sure about this logic.

Also, there’s really no 100% intelligence. The smartest people do silly mistakes.

You might think that you are not stupid, from a true perspective. An imaginary reply, at some point:

[PILATE]
But what is truth? Is truth unchanging law?
We both have truths – are mine the same as yours?
Jesus Christ Superstar – A Rock Opera: Trial Before Pilate / 39 Lashes – Andrew Lloyd Webber

There’s no 100% objective on success, in this case, you can do something which is considered both silly and very smart – at the same time. Se Forrest Gump’s life.

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Yes man

Cindy Ford - What the Young Must Pursue

I watched with great interest the movie Yes Man (2008).

Apparently, saying “Yes!” to everything is something positive. I won’t deny this, it can be so.

But it can also be something negative. For example, it might mean you don’t trust yourself enough to accept the critical part of yourself. You might almost surely have negative feelings about something – you don’t like going everywhere, you won’t like some of the things suggested to you, you would prefer that instead of 10 things to have on your “To-do” list there would be only 5.

Saying yes to everything has some advantages – you will be confronted with lots of situations, you might earn more, you will tend to be more productive, you’ll accomplish things.

But it might bring some dissatisfaction – you might fail some deadlines, you will overpromise, at times, you will say things which won’t necessarily happen.

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How can you tell if someone’s vegan at a party? Don’t worry, they’ll tell you.

Paul Xhrouet - Vegetable

How can you tell if someone’s vegan at a party? Don’t worry, they’ll tell you.

(joke via How Can You Tell If Someone’s Vegan? Don’t worry, they’ll tell you (because they’re desperate to save the planet.) – the normal vegan)

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How do I lose weight?

Ed Yourdon - Summertime lunch at Bryant Park, Aug 2009 - 50

How can you tell whether someone is vegan ?

Answer: Because they tell you… again, and again, and again

One of the key things in losing weight is, at least for me, keeping track of what I eat using MyFitnessPal.com (Free Calorie Counter, Diet & Exercise Journal).

If today I eat something with a large number of calories, and with high-calorie density (highly processed foods, sweets), by weighing myself the next morning I will likely see an increase in my weight. Tracking very thoroughly my calorie intake also helps with this – it helps me keep in my mind the fact that I need to lose weight.

Other than that, I try to do some basic calorie restrictions and having a longer time frame of not eating.

I do some sports, it surely helps, but I consider the impact at a minimum level.

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