And so I wanted to just offer that one, is something to think about. The reason why successful companies fail, is they invest in things that provide the most immediate and tangible evidence of achievement. And the reason why they have such a short time horizon is that they are run by people like you and I. And we then apply that very same thinking process in our personal lives with sad results.
Past – When I was around 3, I moved from a place and a family where I felt free, and loved (Pîrjol), to another where there were rules, and love (I thought) was conditioned by following them (Năvodari). I detailed this here: My soul. I realized the things written in that article last summer (summer of 2016).
In a nutshell, I felt, then, that I am not loved in either of the places and if I want to be loved by my family in Năvodari I need to follow rules. I thought love was conditioned by good behavior.
I was wrong, I was loved in both places, though the expression of it wasn’t clear to me at that time.
And I’ve built, based on this, a whole set of emotions, and, actually, a life.
When you go online on a forum, there are two opposite views:
- One person comes with an open heart, wants to help, offers resources, gives time, effort and interest to help. That person is positive and welcoming. But, most important, the person’s attitude is “If I can help, I’m willing to help, the world will be better with my input”.
- Generally, a reply or more comes after that with a sarcastic message, ruining the first impression. Most important, the person feels he/she’s entitled. “I deserve to receive quality posts on the forum, who is this newbie who made a mistake? This is my house, my party, these are my rules.”
Unfortunately, this kind of attitude doesn’t do good for either party, as most people prefer not to join the conversation anymore.
Am auzit recent o explicație a lui Andrei Pleșu pentru “Fericiți cei săraci cu duhul” ar fi cei care, indiferent de starea materială, nu pun materialul în locul spiritualului. Spre exemplu, cei bogați nu fac din bogăție o pricină de poticnire. Cei săraci cu duhul pot fi bogați, dar bogăția nu le ia mințile.
There is more than one kind of love for other entities:
- You can love God.
- You can love yourself.
- You can love close relatives, in a context you are born with.
- You can love your friends.
- You can love foreigners.
- You can love certain actions (like hobbies, or eating chocolate).
- You can love your significant other.
Out of all these types of love, I think the love for your significant other is one has some specifities.
Whenever a party speaks of another party, most often they refer to exterme behaviors.
“Some religious persons do this very offending thing”.
“Some atheists do this very offending thing”.
“A few writers do this, which means that most writers do that”.
It’s very hard to get yourself out of the thinking that extreme behavior does not equal average.
We have it in our system – we look for the error, thinking that the average must follow the same rule. News flash – it doesn’t.
Dacă aș fi client, aș vrea să fie un magazin amplasat cât mai departe de un alt magazin. Aș prefera să am un magazin în nord, unul în sud, și tot așa.
Dacă aș fi vânzător, și aș ști că în centrul orașului e un magazin magnet, aș face magazinul fix în centru, și, mai mult, l-aș face chiar vizavi de acel magazin.
Dacă îmi fac magazinul în nord, practic cedez concurenței mele orice altă zonă decât zonele apropiate mie.
E o logică diferită, din perspective diferite.
It appears to be futile – writing a long post on a subject. After all, most blog posts, even those with a clear demonstration behind them, can be turned into something smaller.
Well, it helps. It helps you become better in the process of writing. Going through the path of writing a message makes you a better person. You work for it.
Some of my blog posts tend to look rather stupid. Simple ideas, repeated, at times, obsessively. Well, I like them, nevertheless, and I learn from writing them, despite of this.
Case study – sometimes, when I go to an event, I photograph weird things – the entrance, some objects in the room, a logo. Most people would focus a lot on the speaker, less on the organizers, and very few times on the participants.
My focus tends to differ. I don’t go around in the room photographing objects. But I do photograph lots of things, and this helps me make a photo story which tends to be not necessarily easier to follow, but easier to remember.
The photo at the entrance helps you connect with the room. The various photos in the room help you connect with the audience. And so on.
Another case study – yesterday I resized a partition. I thought the process would last for a few seconds, but it lasted for about 15 hours. I couldn’t cancel the operation, once started, so I had to wait to finish. The whole day I checked on the status, to see how much it would last. It brought some frustration. The next time I’ll need to resize a partition, surely, I’ll know more about the process than I know right now.
Writing about things makes you remember those things better. When you are the teacher, you learn some things yourself.