I talked with a friend recently about love matters. I generally don’t tackle this topic, so I didn’t have a procedure ready to apply.
I realized this – you should just keep your mouth shut. Or say things without any meaning. Don’t try to influence in any way. That’s it.
Generally, when you say something about anything, you have one of these three purposes:
- To change the person. To make it shift. To “correct” the love into a right path.
- To comfort the person. To say the person is doing things right. To empower to keep on doing what that person already does.
- No reason whatsoever, you just had something on your mind.
I realized that love is wrong logically, no matter the way you look at it. You don’t want to change the person, because there is no right way. You don’t want to empower the person, because you don’t know whether the person is doing right or wrong. You just don’t know anything about this.
If you want just to babble something, without any intent to change things, it’s fine. But saying something with the intent of changing things is no solution.
Any solution sucks:
- Putting questions, in the hope the person will realize something. Realize what? It’s illogical, anyhow.
- Giving advice. Since you don’t how anything, you will inherently give poor advice.
- Saying something to inspire the person. Well, shocking news, it’s not about you.