Non-practice

From 2005 until 2015, for almost 10 years, I lived in the same space in Bucharest. I got a nice place to live in, I was happy with the overall conditions, I kept the place because I enjoyed the deal.

Between 2015-2016 I lived in London in an apartment in a house. Close to the job, close to the Tube, very nice conditions. Other things paled when compared with these.

From 2018 to 2020 I lived in an apartment in Bucharest. The main benefit? 10 minutes close to the job. Even after the job position changed, it was still very close.

When I chose a Master’s program in 2016, I chose one close to home (Năvodari), useful to my career (IT), and from a good University (Ovidius).

In 2018, I chose another Master’s. Close to home, in IT again, and from the private University considered to be the best there is (Titu Maiorescu).

What’s a key element? Focus on the important things, and the rest will follow. Choose a house close to work, the rest of the things are secondary.

Avoid going out to restaurants if you want to live cheaply, and other things will follow.

Read books if you want to do self-development. What books? You’ll discover that yourself as time passes.

Watch movies and confront yourself to pop culture if you want to keep an engaging conversation. You’ll be better with this as time passes.

But if you keep focusing on important things, others will follow.

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There is a saying: „Fortune favours the bold” / „Fortuna audaces iuvat”.

What this means for me are two things:

• You tend to solve some things in life by not caring about the less important things; when you want to start a business, you put some things in your imagination – „I’ll need this and this”; but, after a while, you might see that some of the things you thought were important for you, in practice were really not that important;
• Another thing – some things solve by themselves; you start a business, you worry about A, B, and C; while A and B will prove a real thread, C might solve by itself.

The „7 years of bad luck” are only true if you think they are.

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I sometimes meet people with inner prisons.

Too much ambition, too little self-trust, patterns of thinking, a bureaucratic mind.

They may come from traumas, habits in thinking, a lack of exposure to new things, too much focus on a single path, a certain education, a certain profession.

We all have inner prisons, but they can be a problem when you can’t do anything out of them.

People focusing on money tend to be too ambitious and less creative, people with certain formal education can tend to think in patterns, people with emotional problems tend to express their weaknesses.

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Sometimes, I have dark images in my mind.

And I had a real surprise when I met people with a positive mind, with no haunting memories, with an optimistic outlook, with no hard inner pains.

The boy meets the world.

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A lot of times in life you see the cool kids, the popular persons, the influential persons exerting power.

Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men, even when they exercise influence and not authority, still more when you superadd the tendency or the certainty of corruption by authority. (John Dalberg-Acton, 1st Baron Acton)

How do some people exert power? By mocking others, by using sarcasm, by joking about others.

It’s almost never that the unsuccessful kid mocks the powerful master.

Thus, we associate power with sarcasm, and one tends to use sarcasm as a way of being powerful, himself.

Have you been mocked? You’ll tend to mock others.

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I recently listened to a podcast by Horia-Roman Patapievici who said that he used to spend his holidays in the countryside.

That person said something similar to: „as a child, I used to spend all of my vacations in the countryside”. („la țară”, „țăran de vacanță”)

I used to do so myself – I’ve spent a lot of my vacations at my grandparents, and quite some time with things like gardens, animals, woods, things like that.

But from time to time I used to meet some people who spent their time in the countryside – there were deep differences between us.

While education and opportunities gave me some advantages in some fields, there were some others that I lacked – the ability to do the hard work, resilience, strength, agility.

The differences were on the personal level, also. I can’t quite put my finger on this, but people had a different way of looking at life, at integrating within the community, on choosing the right path, on living spirituality.

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„Write like you talk” (approximate quote by Seth Godin):

I write like I talk. And nobody I know gets talkers block. Nobody.
No one wakes up and goes… unable to speak.
So if you write like you talk, don’t worry. Because you haven’t run out of things to say yet, so you won’t run out of things to blog.

The thing is, when I talk, daily, I say silly things.

Sometimes, I get an idea I want to share with the world.

But, day-to-day, I say silly things which are not worth sharing.

„Today, I went for a walk, did some exercise, I’m eating healthy, the weather was rather poor, and I’m thinking of starting an online course”.

I could say a thing like this to a friend, but if I blog daily writing like this, this won’t be an idea.

I used to do reviews of pretty much every movie I saw. After a while, I decided it’s not so good, and now I focus on writing about things that really shine.

Sure, I watch some movies, read some books, etc., but if I write about everything most of the blog posts will be really lame.

Instead, I prefer to write a bit rarer, and only mention the very best movies and books.

Sure, if I write as I talk, I will never run out of ideas, and I’ll also practice more.

But, sometimes, it’s best to hold your thoughts for yourself, and only publish some top articles.

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