Winning at chess

Tamas Garam - chess

Sometimes, I play chess. Yet, I don’t play a lot with people I know, I’m not motivated by this. In primary school, I and most of my friends had similar opportunities with being good in school. Most pupils preferred not to learn, I preferred to learn. I think genetics and parents also play a huge role, but I attribute a big part of my success in school to the time I put in learning, reading, educating myself.

So, if I were to be better than someone else in school, I would have been proud.

Yet, I never compared with top athletes. They also wouldn’t want to compare with me, as winning against a beginner would bring them no glory, while a potential (although very improbable) loss would bring them shame. It seems natural to compare yourself with people who have the same opportunities as yourself.

Yet, in the modern-day, this is not the case. I may play much more than others, or much less than others. Generally, there’s a big discrepancy in the time invested in the game.

I know one person who really wanted to beat me at chess, claimed to have trained a lot and won 3-1 (something in that area). But I hadn’t played, during that time, for a long time, while he claimed to have trained a lot.

If we compare professional players, they go “all in”. If they choose to spend 10 or 1 hour per day training, it’s their choice, and they’ll get results based on that. If one player decides to only train a little, while others invest in mental and physical education, that’s fair game.

But, in amateur chess, my one hour of training is not the same as others.

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Some things I’ve sold online

byronv2 - Sale, Sale, Sold

I sold tickets to an event I co-organized ».

Initially, for a few years, we organized them for free. When we started asking for money, people were reluctant to pay us. After a while, we got to a similar number of participants for the premium editions as for the free ones. Most of the selling argument was “You know us well, already”, we didn’t need to use much persuasion.

We did use some packages, like buying multiple tickets with a discount.

I also helped with selling a book online, in which I wrote two chapters.

We put the first chapter online for free, some testimonials, and arranged to have an option to buy online.

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Mi-ar plăcea să locuiesc la țară?

Angelo Brathot - drama-sunset in the countryside

Mi-ar plăcea să locuiesc la țară, dar cu condiții cât mai apropiate de oraș.

Ceva soluție de încălzire, supermarket cu acces facil, Internet, apă curentă.

Așa că, în lista asta de condiții, stau la oraș. :)

Stau la Năvodari în prezent, mare, soare, aer relativ curat (când nu sunt explozii la Petromidia).

Nu e în niciun caz casă la țară cu mâncare sănătoasa și apus superb, dar e în zonă.

Mai e și experiența în viața la țară – să știi să ai grijă de animale, să crești legume și plante, alte asemenea.

Un om crescut la oraș e posibil să aibă niște mici dificultăți în a face asta corect.

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A sort of racism

Orlando Imperatore - With Love

In a podcast/netcast I listened to recently (INDISCUTABIL #9 – Gelu Duminică | Rasism, mentori si empatie – YouTube), Gelu Duminică said something in the lines of:

“În teoria prejudecății există un moment care se numește ancorare (adică «Ce văd eu în tine?»). […] Fiecare dintre noi are foarte multe identități. (eu – n.O.) Nu am doar o identitate. […] Sunt etnic rom, sunt român, sunt sociolog, sunt gras, sunt chelios, sunt bucureștean, sunt copil, sunt … etc., etc. Deci – am foarte multe identități, da? Rasismul este în momentul în care îl ancorezi pe celălalt doar într-o identitate și, indiferent ce face el, se exprimă doar prin identitatea aia.”

Racism has a limited view of the world, focusing on the negative.

What happens if, like I tend to do, focus only on one quality?

What if I reduce one person not to a thing of qualities a person has, but to a single one?

Or, even worse, what if I, instead of valuing persons based on an intrinsic quality – “they exist” -, focus on actions and characteristics?

It’s now that I realize that a very limited view of a person, even if it’s meant to be a look on the positive side, can have negative aspects.

Because you can look at the situation like this – if I value a person on one quality only, I do two things at the same time:

  • I ignore all the other persons. It’s that person and no one else.
  • I ignore all the other qualities of other persons.

People tend to do so when falling in love. You love one person for some things and ignore all the other persons.

You love your family more than other persons in the world.

You have a circle of friends for which you care more.

This doesn’t make things right, even if it’s for positive reasons.

I don’t have a solution.

Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it. (Matthew 10:37-39 niv – “Anyone who loves their father or – Bible Gateway)

As a possible solution:

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.” ― Brad Meltzer

It’s hard loving your neighbor.

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