Yesterday, in the metro, for a short while, some girls were staring at me and giggling. Perhaps it’s because I look like a modern soldier with all my photo / video equipment on me:
Or perhaps due to my belly, which has some proportions right now. Anyhow, they were giggling.
My first reaction was defensive – I felt bad for myself, I was angry at them. What could have I done better?
Instead of focusing on the small issue of having others look down at me, why not correct the issue? Why not work on making the belly less prominent, and why not reduce the amount of things I carry with me at an event, whenever this is possible?
I was on the road, still thinking about these two girls, and at times, about the things to correct my situation, I ignored the reality around me. I should much better have focused on the bus which was coming.
Another example: I was recently at Cora, waiting for someone to buy something heavy from the store, which I would help carry. I stood at the checkout lane, a bit upset that the person was taking much time. A better solution? Enter the store myself and buy something. An even better solution? Get through the checkout myself with the product and carry it home.
Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson went on a camping trip. After a good meal and a bottle of wine, they were exhausted and went to sleep.
Some hours later, Holmes awoke and nudged his faithful friend.
“Watson, look up at the sky and tell me what you see.”
Watson replied, “I see millions and millions of stars.”
“What does that tell you?” Holmes said. Watson pondered for a minute.
“Astronomically, it tells me that there are millions of galaxies and potentially billions of planets. Astrologically, I observe that Saturn is in Leo. Timewise, I deduce that the time is approximately a quarter past three. Theologically, I can see that The lord is all powerful and that we are small and insignificant. Meteorologically, I suspect that we will have, a beautiful day tomorrow. What does it tell you?”
Holmes was silent for a minute, then spoke. “Watson, you idiot, Someone has stolen our tent.”
Life is usually more complex. It’s best to look for alternatives in any given situation. Instead of focusing on what X has done wrong, think what you can do better. There are lots of exits, usually.