I got at least one idea by listening to Despre relațiile din copilărie și cum să menții pacea în cuplu, cu Paul Olteanu și Alexandra Irod – YouTube (RO):
- (not an exact quote, of course) Posting lots of things on social media, being very careful to the reactions I get, putting emphasis on analytics on social media might mean that I have a desire for more attention from others.
It happens to me a lot. I used to reply to pretty much all emails/comments. Now, I do so but to a lesser degree.
I used to be very upset when someone wrote something bad online about me. Now, I tend to control it better.
I used to post a lot of things on social media, now – I still do so, but on other means (blog, Google groups).
What’s the solution? Posting fewer things? No, I do it for multiple reasons, not only for personal satisfaction.
Not caring about a message someone sends to me? I don’t think that’s very OK. Sure, if it’s a SPAM/very aggressive message, I can choose to ignore it. But for a general message – I will generally choose to reply, even though now I understand there are some underlying reasons.
What I need to work on is the general image I make in my mind whenever I get an aggressive message. Right now, it’s not that pleasant.
More than this, I need to place myself in the world better. I wrote about this in the past (1, 2, 3). I still need to fix some things in there.
