“Chiar am auzit oameni care au zis: «Nu, pe mine nu mă interesează partea asta». Avem senzația că asta înseamnă fum de tămâie și bigotism. Rugăciunea nu înseamnă bigotism. Rugăciunea înseamnă încredere în cuvânt. Eu cred că un scriitor care nu se roagă nu e scriitor. Pentru că înseamnă că n-are încredere în cuvânt.” – Ioana Pârvulescu (despre romanul Prevestirea. Participă Ecaterina Grosu, Andrada Strugaru, Ioana Tătărușanu. Moderează: Nicoleta Munteanu)
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I have some members in my family who, from time to time, speak loud.
I got this habit from them.
What’s my cope mechanism, whenever someone speaks loud?
I freeze, waiting for the voice to turn soft.
Not that of a great coping mechanism, don’t you think?
Lots of things happen in modern movies, there’s a lot of action.
On the plus side, I feel engaged, I like watching such movies.
On the negative part, I feel like it’s too much, I need some space and time for reflection.
In the past, I used to have different prices than I have today.
These days, on my hourly rate, for example, I have various rates, based on how long we work together.
At one time in the past, I increased the pricing of my services for a client.
He was very upset with my decision, telling me he doesn’t do so with his own clients.
His way of interpreting things stayed with me, and I tend to do the same with my current clients – if we establish a price per collaboration, I tend not to increase it, as time passes by.
It was a tough lesson, but I hope I learned something from it.
Modern people today tend not to care about tomorrow. It’s all settled – they have a shelter, some food to eat, and they have their basic (and more) needs met.
But there are many people who live in difficult conditions.
The problem of moderns seems great, but they fade in the face of the hunger of many.
On a human psychology part, sometimes life seems overwhelming.
Ecology, overcrowding, stress.
We live an easy life in a world of stress.
In fact, the studies find that anxiety has increased so much that typical schoolchildren during the 1980’s reported more anxiety than child psychiatric patients did during the 1950’s. (Source – Studies show normal children today report more anxiety than child psychiatric patients in the 1950’s)
“When people are free to do as they please, they usually imitate each other.” – Eric Hoffer
There’s a book titled: “Nebunia de a gândi cu mintea ta” (on the madness of thinking with your own mind) by Gabriel Liiceanu.
It’s so hard not to imitate others!
Whenever faced with a choice, the usual solution is “What would another person from the society do?”.
Of course, each person is unique, and on a regular day, most likely people take their own choices, each of them has a unique set of values and acts accordingly.
But, all-in-all, I think it’s rather difficult, due to social pressure and conformity, to constantly try and think with your own mind, as opposed of copying others.
I don’t like telling harsh truths.
It’s like this (I don’t know the source):
“I tried being optimistic. Once. I failed”.
Similarly, on the rare occasions when I tried telling the truth, I tend to upset people.
32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 8:32 NIV
Yes, f you have dilemmas, express them, do not dwell on uncertainty.
But do expect burning some bridges and losing some close friends with this.
I think that if you are a medical professional, a big part of the equation of “Should I work with this person?”, concerning a website, is related to the video part.
If you are bold, you should create a website that has a small video with you – 30 seconds to two minutes, at most.
At a minimum, put a photo of you, a LinkedIn/CV profile, and some words about you.
But a video can do so much more – people can see how you communicate, can understand you much better than in any other means of communication.
I can’t emphasize this enough – if you’re in the business of serving people, you need to convey trust. And video is a great way to do so.
It might even not matter what you are saying. What it surely matters is how you say things, how confident you are, how much charisma you send out.
I meet sometimes people that are self-sufficient.
There’s nothing wrong with being happy at the place you currently are in your career, personal life, or other parts that make you a person.
But to constantly say, “it’s OK where I am”, to answer “I don’t have any issues” to any kind of feedback might be a way to just refuse to grow.
“It’s never like that!” Perhaps, you’re right. Still, give it a try. See how that image fits your personality.
On another hand, you should also be able to stay “Stop, I have enough, I don’t need to fight anymore, I can settle with the current level”.