Language: English

Let’s say you want to help everyone without any discernment. You help your colleagues at work, you help anyone who asks for your help, and you say “Yes!” to everything.

What will likely happen? You’ll have trouble finishing your own tasks at work, you’ll help people who will use your help for bad purposes, you’ll be overwhelmed with tasks, be constantly tired, and always do your work poorly.

What started out as a good thing proves to be wrong.

You might be so shy that you are afraid to start a conversation with a potential sweetheart. You are so afraid of speaking in public that you don’t attend events. Furthermore, you don’t like networking, so you never initiate conversations.

A cynical, brave, careless, self-centered person might do some things better than a good person at the above things.

I’m not suggesting you become an evil person. I think, as others also do, that bad deeds and evil things can be done very easily; it’s very easy to harm or hurt someone.

But I do suggest not always to consider that a cynical person has only faults.

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“It’s raining cats and dogs!” (via »)

I used to like dogs and, to a lesser degree, cats.

After some time passed, I noticed I liked dogs more than cats.

Thinking about the situation, I noticed I actually like dogs the same as cats, but I have a negative association with them – I’m afraid of stray dogs, and I associate my feelings for all dogs with this.

It’s like when adding a nice song as a tune for your mobile phone – after a while, it might disturb you, since you associate getting a call, generally, with getting a task, which you might not like.

It’s the same with dogs – I like them, but since I associate all dogs with stray dogs, I have a tendency to consider I don’t like them as much.

Which is false – I like both cats and dogs, rather equally. (with some variation, of course)

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Sometimes, I see people using emojis a lot.

I do it myself; I think they help make a somehow powerful and perhaps aggressive message easier to digest.

But when you use too many of them, it makes me think that the person has had some negative experiences in the past, and this is their way of defending against this.

I don’t think the emojis are necessarily bad, but they can be overused.

“What did this person gone through that they now need to protect with so many emojis?”.

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Sometimes, I look too much at the negative part of situations.

The situation might appear to be Despair/Disheartening.

The solution? Try to find the fix.

And be realistic about the situation; sometimes, it’s not that bad.

But, all in all, it might prove worthwhile to look at the negative part.

To fix a situation, the first step is to acknowledge it.

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