There’s a quote:
— Leşii sunt! striga tanarul ce venise de curand şi pre care l-am auzit vorbind; şi-au schimbat drumul şi vin aici…
— La porţi, flacai! zise batranul. Încuieţi-le şi gramadiţi bolovani pe ziduri. Aşezaţi-va toţi pe la metereze. Sa nu zica leahul c-au intrat într-o cetate romaneasca ca într-o ţarina pustie.
— Dar noi suntem numai nouasprezece şi asta-i o oaste întreaga, observa unul; cum se…
— Taci mucosule! îl curma batranul. Te temi ca-i peri? Mare paguba! Un mişel mai puţin.
Vanatorul astfel înfruntat se trase ruşinat şi se sui pe ziduri.
which says, basically, that if you care too much for your life you will not be able to do good things.
Do you need to have self-confidence, to put trust in yourself, to value your own opinion? Sure!
You need self-confidence in pretty much everything you do.
On another hand, if you care too much for your image, you might be very nervous each time you do a public talk, always wondering if your high image of yourself is well represented.
You want to start something, but you’re afraid you’ll fail. And you think you’re way too good in order to fail, so you refuse to start anything.
You win in school at pretty much everything, you face later on the job market, and you find an obstacle. You give up easily, because it feels too hard, and you’re much too good of a person not to give up. You value yourself so much, that you’re shocked when something doesn’t go your way and you make poor decisions.
What’s the solution? As always in life, it’s a paradox and an equilibrium: you need trust, but you also need doubt. You need to value yourself a lot, but you also need to be able to put your self-value on hold.Partajează pe WhatsApp