Sometimes, I see people with criteria around them – „In order to …, you will have to …”.
My criteria is this – „In order for me to consider you a top-notch person …, you will have to …”.
On the other hand, I try to put no criteria on behavior. So, my thought above is an internal one, not an external one. I try not to request people to do actions, in order for me to treat them right (or how I perceive right).
Some people do request certain a behavior to receive a certain behavior („you have to act like this, in order for me to act like that”).
Über-cool thing: even if I do meet the criteria, I tend to despise that thinking. It’s a faulty logic, no matter if I fulfill the criteria or not. My logic goes like this: „I generally don’t ask people to do something, in order for me to do something. But for you, especially, I will apply the same criteria you apply to others. Take it as a gift”.
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