Fishing for compliments

When you ask “How was I?”, you are fishing for compliments.

It’s not easy for a polite person to tell you the truth.

A better question – “What would you do different, next time, if you were me?”.

Or: “How would you do it better next time?”.

Or: “What could I do better, next time?”.

Focus on the future, and start with the assumption you can improve, rather than asking for an overall picture.