I like this article a lot: fiţi trecători – JURNAℓ SCOȚIAN.
How do I interpret it ? You should be transient, be a passer-by, don’t stay put.
If you do something wrong, don’t stay in that state.
If something upsets you, don’t keep being upset.
If you love, love with all of your heart, but if you hate, don’t let the hate build a nest in your mind.
Also, change.
Don’t be the same person, stubborn in their sins, stubborn in their bad habits, stubborn in doing wrong.
Give some room to change.
Sometimes, people say “Look, here’s an unpopular opinion – “.
And they continue saying something which might or might not be true.
But because they started with “I admit, you might not like this”, they are somehow favored.
People might enjoy listening to what they have to say, because they were honest, right from the start.
I find the comment “Here’s an unpopular opinion” rather manipulative.
You say this upfront, just so that then you are allowed to say anything.
It’s like saying “I’m going to say something, but you might not like it”.
Well, in that case, take a leap and either not tell it, or tell it without this game.
Once, a friend told me right after I bragged for being admitted at one of the most prestigious Colleges in Romania: “OK, that’s fine, you got in. Let’s see which of us, you or me, will get a job faster after graduation”.
He did a College on travelling the world as a working person on a ship. The job can be boring at times, but you work for international companies + it’s considered a difficult job + you are qualified for this position. All three criteria make the job well paid.
He continued with his career in the field, and got to a good level of job satisfaction.
I once heard the story, at a conference, about an entrepreneur who started in the advertising industry, but it was a very crowded market, so he thought he would launch in the car rental business, a more profitable business.
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. – Soren Kierkegaard
Looking backward, I like my life, I did some things.
Financially speaking, I know some people who had fewer talents with school, but worked hard, got to combos similar to my friend, above, and are much better than I am.
I remember a time in school, when one teacher came to the class, just for one hour, and that’s it (it was a substitute teacher, filling in for a colleague), and told us – “I think persons A, B, C, from the three areas in which the benches are split in your classroom, will succeed”.
All three colleagues have made it with a good career, and are much better professionally than I am.
I was one of the best kids in my classroom, and this wasn’t enough. It’s not enough to know some Math, and Literature, to succeed in life it takes more things.
I’m amazed by that teacher’s prediction, looking backwards.
I gave a link to someone at some point.
I was criticized for not explaining what the link was about.
About this question: Should Artists Have to Talk About Their Work? – I think the answer is “No, you don’t need to explain your work”.
If I give a link to you, you should try and wonder why did I gave the link to you.
If you don’t find an answer, ask me.
But I don’t start with the assumption that each time I give a link I have to comment on it, just to make sure the person gets the message.
Sometimes, a bit of obscurity is fine.
On the holiday season, most people prefer to relax, spend time with their families, enjoy life.
For some strange reason, on other times of the year, I just add tasks to myself.
That’s a poor habit, because on the Holidays things add up, and there’s a lot of work to be done.
If you want to eat an elephant, a good idea is to eat a small piece daily, rather than waiting for them to get bigger and bigger.
Christmas is for fun. You can schedule some tasks, but don’t leave it all until the last moment.
I know persons who think that by addressing a kind word to someone, you’re entitled to rewards.
They seem to actually consider that people need to pay you back, since you told them something nice.
To me, at least partially, this looks like manipulation, and I try to avoid this.
Sure, go for it, say something enjoyable, treat people nicely, avoid ugly words behind their backs, initiate polite conversations.
But don’t do this expecting something in return, that’s just mean.
The first loss of love in my life seemed permanent, so when someone is upset, I also think it’s permanent.
Of course, the loss wasn’t permanent, and it wasn’t even a loss, it was more of a “we’ll see each other much rarely”.
Also, of course, people can get by being upset, they can recover from this and move on.
