Let’s say someone upsets you. Then, you, being upset, you treat someone harshly.
The logical conclusion? You did a bad act, as a reaction, follow-up, or consequence, of a bad act.
I think things are much more complicated than this. Yes, after losing something you likely feel bad, after you succeed in something, you feel good.
But ups & downs are much more complicated than this.
It’s an illusion – the idea that you can constantly feel good, only ups, only happiness, and when someone does you wrong, that person is automatically to blame.
Life is much more complex than this.
If you were to move to an isolated island, with a beach, plenty of food, and all the basic necessities, you might feel fine for a while, but after a while, the Paradise you’re in might make you feel sad.
With all the basic necessities covered, you’ll likely feel poorly on a beach.
I’m not saying you should be a masochist and try to bring pain and difficulties into your life.
But living from pleasure to pleasure will also not bring you happiness in the long run.
If you are behaving poorly, there might be many more reasons than someone doing something bad to you. It’s not that simple.
