“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ― Maya Angelou

Sometimes, people tell me – “I moved on! I changed, I’m not the same person!”.

This leaves me in shock – how can people change what they feel about X (X can be a person, a situation, a thing, an action, a habit, a hobby)?

While I do have a poor memory (sometimes, life seems to look a lot like “Memento” (2000)), there are some things I can’t forget – mostly how I feel about X.

Finding out people can actually move on from a thing in their past is simply amazing!

On another note, I’m as much puzzled when I meet people who can’t move on. The opposite is, it seems, also true.

Also, a song on memory – Barbra Streisand – Memory. :)

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There are some quotes in the Bible, like this one:

So I have come down to rescue them from the hand of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land into a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey—the home of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites. (Exodus 3:8 NIV)

(Plus others)

that refer to places flowing with milk and honey.

While it must not have really flown, it might mean that those places were good for raising animals that gave milk and bees for their honey.

Did it flow? Sure, but you needed to put some effort into this.

Add some toast and you get a song. :)

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From 2005 until 2015, for almost 10 years, I lived in the same space in Bucharest. I got a nice place to live in, I was happy with the overall conditions, I kept the place because I enjoyed the deal.

Between 2015-2016 I lived in London in an apartment in a house. Close to the job, close to the Tube, very nice conditions. Other things paled when compared with these.

From 2018 to 2020 I lived in an apartment in Bucharest. The main benefit? 10 minutes close to the job. Even after the job position changed, it was still very close.

When I chose a Master’s program in 2016, I chose one close to home (Năvodari), useful to my career (IT), and from a good University (Ovidius).

In 2018, I chose another Master’s. Close to home, in IT again, and from the private University considered to be the best there is (Titu Maiorescu).

What’s a key element? Focus on the important things, and the rest will follow. Choose a house close to work, the rest of the things are secondary.

Avoid going out to restaurants if you want to live cheaply, and other things will follow.

Read books if you want to do self-development. What books? You’ll discover that yourself as time passes.

Watch movies and confront yourself to pop culture if you want to keep an engaging conversation. You’ll be better with this as time passes.

But if you keep focusing on important things, others will follow.

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There is a saying: “Fortune favours the bold” / “Fortuna audaces iuvat”.

What this means for me are two things:

• You tend to solve some things in life by not caring about the less important things; when you want to start a business, you put some things in your imagination – “I’ll need this and this”; but, after a while, you might see that some of the things you thought were important for you, in practice were really not that important;
• Another thing – some things solve by themselves; you start a business, you worry about A, B, and C; while A and B will prove a real thread, C might solve by itself.

The “7 years of bad luck” are only true if you think they are.

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