I tend to write content on my blog with one idea – to develop myself.
The article I’m most proud of on this matter (Despre ură. Pe plan personal (eu urăsc) și global (societatea te îndeamnă la ură) – cel mai bun articol pe care l-am scris vreodată și de ce acest lucru e irelevant – Blog de Olivian Breda) took a few days to write and I consider it a key part in my development.
Just going through the process of writing it helped me with becoming a better person.
I have a theory – if you bring a thought into active memory, you think about it, it tends to become a reality, even to the point of actually believing it.
Memories are flexible, your mind can create realities.
They’re not true but to yourself – realities, nevertheless.
It all starts from thought – and it becomes something physical.
My humour has not transmitted that well on Zoom conferences.
Tried it, failed it.
Yes, some people laugh at my jokes, but it’s a different atmosphere.
I find it much easier to make a person laugh while meeting in person.
The doctors did me a lot of good on all occasions I interacted with any of them.
How would I not want to get vaccinated?
There are just two types of people:
The optimal solution?
Choose the middle path.
As a personal observation, old people are happy, they tend to care less about other people’s opinions, and are happy with what they’ve accomplished in life.
On the other hand, sometimes they can be inflexible.
“This leads to happiness”. That’s great, but it’s not the only path.
On gift picking: why not buy gifts that last a long time – like a trinket or a perfume?
I prefer to buy things that expire fast – some quality food, for example.
If a person doesn’t like your perfume, they are stuck with it for a long time.
If they don’t like the food, in one or two days it will be gone.
I tend to be risk-averse.
Also, I prefer to give vouchers or money as gifts – people can buy whatever they prefer.
“I know better than you what you’d like” is very rarely true.
Sometimes, when making a decision, it’s important to at least acknowledge, if not follow, the middle path.
See how others are doing, and do a similar thing they do.
It’s not easy, though.
For once, you need the humility to think that you are not better than others.
Then, you need to accept that others’ actions can apply to you.
Also, the power to ignore your own taste.
Even if you pick a minority of people you admire, choosing to apply on your life the middle path from their lives is still a very big challenge.
Sometimes, you’ll cherry-pick – “Here, I go with the majority, here I decide on my own”.
When you ask “How was I?”, you are fishing for compliments.
It’s not easy for a polite person to tell you the truth.
A better question – “What would you do different, next time, if you were me?”.
Or: “How would you do it better next time?”.
Or: “What could I do better, next time?”.
Focus on the future, and start with the assumption you can improve, rather than asking for an overall picture.
I meet sometimes people who hate what they do.
People whose jobs depend on having a job done. And they hate it.
If you do an activity long enough, you tend to get to hate it.
Still, it’s sad.
That’s why “Follow your passion” might be the wrong piece of advice.
Sure, initially you’ll love your new hobby, but after a while, if you constantly do it, it might make you hate it.
Vice versa, even if you have a boring job, you might still love getting results after putting a lot of work in it.
There are no silver bullets telling you what career to pick, I’m just saying that if you like dancing, you should dance for pleasure.
If you manage to make dancing into a successful career, that’s great, but you could also be an accountant that does dancing as a hobby.