“What is important is not what happens to us, but how we respond to what happens to us.” – Jean-Paul Sartre

“What is important is not what happens to us, but how we respond to what happens to us.” ― Jean-Paul Sartre

I’ve read this first in „The happiness diary” by Nicolae Steinhardt.

We tend to ignore the reactions, how we respond to things. It’s pretty much all that matters. What makes a birthday a happy day? How you respond to it. What makes a gift a gift? The way in which you interpret it. What makes a rainy day either happy or sad? How you look at it.

Everything depends on how we look at the world, not how the world really is.

Is it a mirage? No, but it’s close to it.

Placebos work. We think of something good, it becomes a reality. We think medicine works, it does.

What is Fear? „False Evidence Appearing Real”. (via Jim Bagnola)

The story about „Which wolf wins?”: „The one you feed.” ― Cherokee Metaphor (read it here »). If you feed your mind with bad thoughts, they become reality. Good thoughts? The same thing applies.

You do something wrong, it wakes something bad in another person. But their reaction could be different. And, much more importantly, your reaction to this can be different. While you surely can’t be happy if you make someone upset, you can choose how you respond to this.

Also, you can reinterpret the situation. You need to learn, as you pass through life (professionally and personally), how to adapt to situations. What you learn from them. Let’s say you make a mistake, and you suffer some consequences. One way to look at the issue is individually at the specific error „Oh, I should have known better, I shouldn’t have made that mistake”. Another way is to put the situation in context „In life, you do make mistakes, it’s inevitable. What I’ll do, instead, is learn from it, and consider it a necessary step in my formation, personal and professional. I’ll do keep it in my memory, so as not to repeat it, but I won’t consider it the top thing to evaluate when making big decisions. It’s important not to repeat it, to learn from the mistakes, perhaps even to tell others so that they don’t do that mistake. But it’s also important to move on, to go on the next project, to continue, to rise from the ground, to improve, to take the next step. Even if the next step is also a mistake, it will be, still, a lesson. And some point, I’m confident I’ll be better at this. It’s a price which must be paid”.

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