Praise the praiser

Ed - 1928 Bentley Speed 6

Once, at my grandparents’ house in Buzău, I was sent into the village. I came back running, to overhear a conversation between my grandfather and my grandmother: “Olivian is a hardworking person. Wherever you send him, he goes.”

My grandfather didn’t use to say too many good things to my face. But when he made that confession to my grandmother, I knew he meant it.

Another memory is with a rather critical teacher from the 8th grade, who, at least for a moment, I managed to impress.

I think people should say more good things one to another.

The only exception I can think of are monks, who prefer not to be praised.

Praising makes the world better, in my opinion.

I still think of moments when someone told something good about me, it feeds me, it’s a validation I need. I’m trying not to depend on this, but it happens naturally.

Also, don’t fake it. If you don’t mean praising, I wouldn’t do it. Say the truth, don’t just say things.

But if you focus on “What could I say good about this person?”, most likely you’ll come up with something.

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Follow-up: Dr. Stelian Gomboș – Despre “Rugul Aprins”, Pr. Sofian Boghiu și Pr. Nicolae Bordașiu (2021.06.06, Biserica Sfântul Pantelimon – Foișorul de Foc București)

În data de 6 iunie 2021, la Biserica Sfântul Pantelimon – Foișorul de Foc București, dr. Stelian Gomboș a susținut un cuvânt de învățătură despre “Rugul Aprins”, Pr. Sofian Boghiu (Mănăstirea Antim) și Pr. Nicolae Bordașiu.

Mai jos, video de la eveniment.

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Things that matter

Elena Penkova - In the woods

I like this quote:

The only three things that matter:

  • Relationships
  • Health
  • Purpose

(via Mike Crittenden »)

It reminds me of:

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

(John 14:6 NIV)

Here, relationships = truth, health = life, purpose = the way.

In the article quoted above, there are also priorities. Is there anything more important to you than those things? If so, is this a rational step?

I think there are multiple levels in life, and in some way or another, you fail to some degree on all of these. But, at the end of the day, you can do your best to achieve these goals, and it might be good for you.

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Testing hardware – keyboard, chair

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There is some hardware, like a nice keyboard or an ergonomic chair, which you can hardly test.

Sure, you can go into a store and see if you like it or not, start typing on the keyboard or lean back on the chair.

But how will you feel one week after using it? 3 months? One year?

I don’t think that first impressions are the best in these situations.

As I see it, you can only test if you don’t like some things like that – if you really hate the chair, if the keyboard annoys you a lot.

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Ads with a heart

Crusty Da Klown - Bleeding Heart

In Romania, I’ve heard some times ago that ads that are emotional, with soul, are remembered better than those that speak about logic and demonstrations.

And what do a lot of advertisers do? They put a heart in their ads.

Lots of ads with a heart:

  • We save you money, not love – a supermarket.
  • The drugstore of the heart.
  • For the heart of Romanians – a beer.
  • Chocolate in the shape of a heart.
  • Print hearts and put them in a window – an additive to soups.
  • Health from the heart of Dacia – medicinal plants.

The list is surely bigger, but I don’t watch as many ads as I used to do.

The issue with all these? They’re mostly cognitive, not emotional.

Even if you say “This is from the heart”, this does not make the message emotional.

“From Russia, with love” (1963 movie) does have some emotional connections (Russia, love). But, still, it’s rather rational.

It’s not enough, in my opinion, to take the heart, put it in an ad – voilà, you have an emotional message.

Emotions come from memories (recalling an emotional event, like the connection with Russia, above), or from stories (“with love” will remind you of other times when people told you a thing like that).

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Shrek vs. The dream princesses

Some consider that Shrek wasn’t a success:

“The fairytale comedy was a hit with critics and audiences but its toilet humour, glibness and shoddy animation mark it out as a misfire”. (Shrek at 20: an unfunny and overrated low for blockbuster animation | Animation in film | The Guardian)

When you compare Shrek with the dream-like princesses, to me some things are worth mentioning:

  • Shrek didn’t do much self-improvement. Sure, as in any movie, the main hero wants to improve on a specific thing. But, all-in-all, Shrek was happy with not succeeding. Not great, but happy.
  • On another hand, most of Disney princesses focus on being almost perfect, like a dream. They focus on self-improvement a bit too much. Great, but, perhaps, less happy.
  • What’s the solution? Get the best out of both worlds. You do need to become better, you can’t just be happy with your state. On another hand, you can accept some things are they are and fully enjoy life.

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Fully developed professional

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I think that in order to be a good professional, you might need to know some things outside of your area.

Leonardo da Vinci knew a lot of things.

Nicolae Steinhardt, if I’m not mistaken, recommends monks to know some other things, not necessarily focus 100% on Theology.

Andrei Pleșu: “Dar cine îşi imaginează că a nu citi, a nu cădea niciodată pe gînduri, a te purta birjăreşte, a te ocupa numai de şmecherii şi aranjamente adaugă ceva calităţii tale umane e la fel de smintit ca cel care crede că a fi frecventat bibliotecile e a fi deja cu sufletul în rai şi a avea un ascendent inatacabil asupra oricui.”

There was a quote that when you need to choose between two professionals if they’re of generally equal value it might be a better idea to choose the one with a greater culture.

Even if you work with numbers and information bits (0s and 1s), you might still need some theater, some literature.

You do need logic, demonstration and technical parts.

But if you want to be a good professional it might be wiser to have a balanced formation, not just technical, but also art-related, not only art-related but also technical.

A quote:

Andrei Pleșu discută cu Sever Voinescu, redactor-șef al Dilemei vechi, despre cultură și tinerii de azi. „A venit un om la mine, un inginer, și mi-a spus: După ce am citit Jurnalul de la Păltiniș, am devenit un mai bun inginer“. (Andrei Pleșu despre ce poate stîrni cultura în oameni – Dilema veche)

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Despre NAS și DAS

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Nu mă pricep foarte bine la subiect – ce să alegi între un NAS sau DAS?

Vreau doar să menționez că există și o metodă de a „uni” mai multe hard-disk-uri prin DAS, care sunt de obicei mai ieftine decât NAS-urile.

Pentru nevoile mele consider că e mai potrivit un DAS decât un NAS.

Și mai simplu, și mai ieftin, eu nu am nevoie de majoritatea funcțiilor unui NAS.

Am aflat despre DAS-uri pe forumul XF.

Din lista de la Amazon de DAS-uri, mie place Amazon.com: 4 Bay Hard Drive Enclosure,Yottamaster Aluminum Alloy 2.5″/3.5″ USB3.0 to SATA3.0 External HDD SSD Storage Enclosure,Support 4 x 16 TB Capacity,Ideal for Enterprise-Class Storage Solution[FS4U3]: Computers & Accessories.

Am cumpărat un astfel de produs și sunt mulțumit de el. Dar nu îl folosesc ca NAS.

Prim România nu prea se găsesc DAS-uri, cel puțin când am căutat nu prea erau, și și dacă se găsesc probabil sunt mai scumpe ca pe Amazon, cu tot cu livrare.

Legat de comparația NAS vs. DAS, nu sunt multe de zis. NAS-urile sunt mult mai performante (aplicații, funcții), dar DAS-urile sunt mai ieftine și pot fi o soluție pentru cei ce nu vor în plus față de stocare date alte funcții.

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Changing someone’s mind

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”The best arguments in the world won’t change a single person’s mind. The only thing that can do that is a good story.” – Richard Powers

I tend not to send others information about vaccination – if you believe the information, you don’t need it, if you don’t need it, you won’t listen.

Things go the same with faith – you don’t need to be proven that God exists, you believe in Him or not.

My purpose is not to try and influence anyone’s opinion on this.

I want to state my views, but without ever hoping that this will change someone’s mind.

The wish to change others is natural, the expectation that this will actually happen, is not, in my opinion.

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