Two things:
- Let’s say a child hits a table. One way to do things is to punish the table. A much better option would be loving the table. Instead of hitting the table, kiss it and kiss the child.
- If the child is afraid of something, don’t take this away from him, don’t negate the object of fear – “There is no Dark Man.” / “There’s no one in the dark” / “There are no monsters”. Let the child face his own fears.