Non-practice

Sometimes, I think of this – how should pupils be put in benches?

For example, some ideas I got from school:

• Placing boys mixed with girls – in one bench, a boy and a girl.
• Putting people with aggressive behavior to be surrounded by people with more proper behavior.
• Putting people in conflict close to one another so that they can get past their aggressiveness.

I met in my school years people who cared about how pupils stay on a bench, and I think people should at least consider this. What’s the natural tendency? Sit boy-boy, girl-girl, always with friends, away from unpopular people, due to various reasons. Perhaps that’s not the best way.

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There are two ways of answering that question:

• For a beginner, I would state my main X account;
• For an advanced person, I’d mention all of my accounts, perhaps specifying some details on the most important ones.

Of course, I could also ask for additional details, but generally, I prefer not to.

Most people would prefer the first option for answering the question. I prefer the latter one.

I prefer to speak to advanced users, not beginners.

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In Amazon.com: How to Win Friends & Influence People, Dale Carnegie says in quite a few ways that you can impress people by treating them nicely.

I don’t think the world is evil, twisted, or bad, but I do think that the world he mentions is not really that true.

Some people will tend to abuse you if you treat them nicely.

Treat people kindly? That’s fine if you don’t expect something in return.

Overall, people are happy, work towards the good of others, and fight for the better.

But if you think, “I will treat people fine, and they will fall on their backs over me,” that might not be true.

I’m not advocating for being evil; I think you should do good at all costs, but don’t expect the reactions in the book.

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Somebody told me details about a car accident. It wasn’t pretty, even to imagine.

This makes me think – is it that important to avoid precautions just to get from A to B faster?

Isn’t it better to arrive a few minutes late, but with extra care in not getting into accidents?

In my opinion, avoiding such risks is well worth the price of waiting more.

But, of course, nobody likes to declutter, do dishes and wait in line.

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„De ce îi este omului de astăzi foame? De iubire și de sens.” – Nicolae Steinhardt în Jurnalul fericirii

There’s a book called: “Între Dumnezeu și neamul meu” – Petre Țuțea.

There is a horizontal axis (love, my people) and a vertical axis (God, purpose).

I think there might be a diagonal within these axises: not caring, being thick skinned (nepăsare / nesimțire).

In this situation, where you don’t care, you have neither a purpose, not love.

I think these words combine multiple plans – not caring, being thick skinned (nepăsare / nesimțire).

And they’re even harder to fix, as they are on multiple levels.

If you have no love and no purpose, I think you are in a poor position.

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You can get too much focus or too little focus.

It’s not an easy balance.

For example, you can focus too much on things you can’t control. “What’s the situation in the US?”. Ok, other than the general culture, why is it important?

But, on the other hand, if you only read “How to be more successful at X,” you’ll have a view that is too narrow.

There are other implications, also. You can consider what appears in the media as the ultimate truth.

For example, you think you know what it’s like to live in the US just by seeing the news. While not a lie, the image might be far from complete.

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Exploring the question, “Who am I?” can be a profound and introspective journey. Let me try to find out more about myself by answering some questions.

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