{"id":297,"date":"2020-06-25T21:09:44","date_gmt":"2020-06-25T18:09:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/olivian.ro\/arte\/?p=297"},"modified":"2020-06-26T09:08:46","modified_gmt":"2020-06-26T06:08:46","slug":"winning-obsession","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/olivian.ro\/arte\/winning-obsession\/","title":{"rendered":"Poem: „Winning obsession” – by Olivian Breda"},"content":{"rendered":"

„I need to win!”,<\/p>\n

I always hear.<\/p>\n

Mostly by people speaking in English,<\/p>\n

So, this poem needs to be addressed to them.<\/p>\n

When you play,<\/p>\n

When they play,<\/p>\n

When I play,<\/p>\n

Winning is the main aim.<\/p>\n

There is no game, actually,<\/p>\n

Everything, even games, is a competition.<\/p>\n

(I have to correct my spelling when I write,<\/p>\n

There must be no mistakes.<\/p>\n

„No excuses!”)<\/p>\n

There is no mercy,<\/p>\n

There is no acceptance for 2nd<\/sup> place,<\/p>\n

Whoever gives in even a small thing – loses.<\/p>\n

There are no „almost-winners”,<\/p>\n

There is no forgiveness,<\/p>\n

And, worse of all, there are no friends.<\/p>\n

Because how can you be a friend to someone<\/p>\n

Who asks of you to be perfect in everything?<\/p>\n

Who always asks you never to make a mistake?<\/p>\n

„We are the champions?”<\/a><\/p>\n

OK, you can be the champion.<\/p>\n

But, please, pretty please, don’t call me „friend”.<\/p>\n

Sure, you say,<\/p>\n

„We are the champions, my friends”<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You own me as a friend,<\/p>\n

I’m part of your properties,<\/p>\n

I owe you my best behavior.<\/p>\n

I disagree with you,<\/p>\n

And agree with:<\/p>\n

„Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:34<\/a>)
\n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Forget and forgive,<\/p>\n

Rinse and repeat,<\/p>\n

Forgive some more,<\/p>\n

Forget even more,<\/p>\n

Accept losing as a gift,<\/p>\n

And ask from yourself ask you will ask from others:<\/p>\n

Nothing.<\/p>\n

There is a state of +\/- <\/a><\/p>\n

And there is a state of 0.<\/p>\n

Go into the state of zero.<\/p>\n

Do nothing,<\/p>\n

Care for nothing,<\/p>\n

Forget everything,<\/p>\n

Owe everything to everyone,<\/p>\n

Do good and expect nothing.<\/p>\n

It’s not good to play the fool<\/a>,<\/p>\n

The madman,<\/p>\n

The always loser,<\/p>\n

The always-annoying-others,<\/p>\n

To be the silly one in a group,<\/p>\n

As this will likely generate negative emotions in others.<\/p>\n

If you annoy people by being the fool,<\/p>\n

It’s not so good.<\/p>\n

But if you always strive for perfection,<\/p>\n

If you hide away in you everything related to an emotion,<\/p>\n

If you only ask for top-notch,<\/p>\n

You might not accept losing,<\/p>\n

Second place,<\/p>\n

Forgiveness.<\/p>\n

So, what’s the solution?<\/p>\n

What do you mean, by „solution”?<\/p>\n

There can’t be a solution to this paradigm.<\/p>\n

How can there be a solution for not winning,<\/p>\n

For accepting to lose,<\/p>\n

For considering losing – a viable option?<\/p>\n

I think even Nicolae Steinhardt<\/a> had this to some degree.<\/p>\n

I admire him a lot, but even he might have tried to be perfect.<\/p>\n

So, what’s the solution?<\/p>\n

Stop trying.<\/p>\n

PS, 2020.06.26 – I have to write this,<\/p>\n

That there’s music in me yet<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You need to learn not to avenge,<\/p>\n

Not to be upset when you lose,<\/p>\n

And for this, you need to accept losing,<\/p>\n

Accept the weakness,<\/p>\n

Accept the fault.<\/p>\n

Forgiveness is the key,<\/p>\n

Winning is not.<\/p>\n

\"Mi..chael<\/a>
Mi..chael – Competition – Who wins?!, https:\/\/flic.kr\/p\/9HhNkV<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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